SATC, Guilts and Girlfriends
I somehow ended up watching Sex and the City the movie 2 twice.
First time was the night it opened, and I went with bunch of girlfriends. These girls are my good old friends, We all dressed up and
went out for cocktails in downtown afterwords. It was so nice to catch up, since we don’t get to see each other much anymore because of our work, husbands, and kids.
Last week, different group of girlfriends were getting together to see the movie. An email invitation came around, asking all the girls to RSVP but since I’ve already seen the movie, I didn’t reply(bad manner, I know). Then my dear friend B called me, “Yukari, you must come to the girls night! It’s Sex and the City! It will be so much fun!” ….I told her that I had already seen the movie, but I would love to meet them for cocktails before the movie.
I went to B’s house first and met all the other girls. Couple of them I knew, but the rest I met for the first time. I was of course all dressed when I got there, but some of the girls were still deciding what to wear and there were lots of undressing/dressing, applying of lipsticks and lotions. I love getting ready for a night out-especially with girlfriends and drinks.
We headed to Veneto lounge(2 nights in a row for me so I was trying to hide from the bartender), ordered our cocktails and we all introduced each other. There I met really amazing women, and their company was so great I decided to tag along with them to the movie again.
As for the movie-spoilers alert-I enjoyed it despite all the negative review. I know it’s not Citizen Kane, it’s just an entertainment. I knew it was a long movie, 2.5 hours, but was pleasantly surprised that I didn’t need to stare at my watch. Yes, the plot is pretty ridiculous-first class trip to Abu Dhabi, but there are some good scenes.
I saw producer Michael Patrick King’s interview where he was saying how interesting it is that those four super modern women having to face with traditional values. Yup, Carrie is now married to Mr. Big and I was shocked to see her turned into one of those nagging wife-asking Big to take his shoes off the couch, not to watch TV, and saying “I just wanna spend some time with you” stuff. Whoa, Et tu, Carrie?
As a mother, I was especially touched to see Charlotte’s struggle. I am a pretty bad, guilt-free mom so I am not at all like her, but I could so relate to her breakdown in the kitchen….after yelling at her daughter, locking herself in the pantry, crying. I’m sure every mom has gone though that..Almost brought tears to my eyes. It was one of the very “real” moments.
My most favourite scene was again about motherhood between Charlotte and Miranda. “I love my girls, but I have enjoyed the time without them” “Being a mother IS HARD” -here comes the ever so common Mommy guilt again. Honestly people(not just moms,but also for all the type A’s out there) we have to let go of feeling guilty. It does not do ANY good.
My all time favourite quote: “Guilt is your ego’s way to trick you into thinking you are making a moral progress -Don’t fall for it” – “Eat, Pray, Love”
After the movie I went out for a drink with my new friend K. I met her for the first time that night, but we kind of hit it off. We went out and saw bunch of friends, it was a good time. On our way home we talked about this girl(I’ll call her P) we saw that night. When K and I arrived, she had that onceover on me from head to toe, checking me out. She barely talked to me, only responding to my polite chitchat questions.
Me: “I get a feeling she doesn’t like me much”
K: “I don’t think she likes any women. She looked like she wanted to be the only girl tonight”
Me: “Funny how we can tell these things right away? ”
I have many amazing girlfriends. For my “Religious Views” on Facebook, I put “Girlfriends”, because I do not know what I’d do without them.
I survived some of the darkest moments(Yes, I have a few) in my life thanks to my friends.
Those 2 nights I had with my girlfriends watching Sex and the City, I had amazing time not because of the movie, but because of the company I had.
Then I see women like P, who seems only threatened by presence of other women. I don’t know her very well, but I bet she doesn’t have many girlfriends. How sad.
I am very lucky to have my friends-male and female-and I am eternally grateful.
